Q: Hey Miss, I just want to be able to go out and flirt with boys without having to deal with them thinking I want anything serious or a relationship. The Flirty One

A: Dear Flirty One, There is no special ingredient needed for this situation; just be yourself. Many girls, like yourself, like to go out and have a good time, but guys can sometimes ruin it for us. Someone is always ready to judge you by your actions, so don't lead him on or dress like you're "asking for it." Flirting is all about attitude, so keep things positive, make eye contact and smile often. Make sure you feel comfortable: Is the atmosphere OK? Are your clothes fitting right? It's always better to feel comfortable because this gives you self confidence. Body language also keeps the mood just right. Crossing your arms shows that you are bored and not very welcoming, so keep yourself open to invite the ones around you. If a guy decides that he wants something more than what you want to give, a simple "No" will do on your part. If he is persistent, either ignore the guy or just find a new crew to hang with. You are here to have fun, not to be tied down.

Q: Hey Miss, A guy friend of mine recently told me that he likes me. He is such a great guy, very cute and sweet. I enjoy spending time with him (we have been hanging out a lot lately). There is only one problem: I do not share the same feelings he does. I barely know him! I only see him as a friend. What should I do? I feel bad.

A: Dear Bad, For starters, I'm glad to see a guy cares for you, but don't feel bad. There are many girls out there who reject guys. It's all part of the dating cycle. Make sure you let him know about your feelings because you don't want to give the impression that you are "leading him on." This doesn't mean you should excommunicate him out of your life, though. If he is your friend, treat him as one. Keep hanging out with him, and who knows? You might change your mind in the near future. If your feelings never change, that is OK too. He should respect your decision. None of this is your fault. You can't help how you feel, and you shouldn't force yourself to feel a certain way. Just continue with how things are going and see what happens. In the end, everything will come into place.

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