Kansas State Collegian

K-State professor drowns on vacation

By Staff Report

Published: Monday, October 18, 2010

Updated: Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Last Wednesday, a K-State professor died while vacationing in Mexico.

Mary Hale Tolar, director of leadership studies, sent an e-mail Sunday evening stating Tony Jurich, professor of family studies and human services, drowned while on vacation with his wife, Olivia Collins, instructor in the school of leadership studies. The pair were walking on a beach when a "rogue wave" overtook them and they were pulled into the water by the undertow.

The hotel staff witnessed the event and entered the water pulling out Collins and Jurich. Collins was revived then transported by ambulance to a local hospital and spent two days recovering, according to the e-mail.

A native of Brooklyn, N.Y., Jurich received his undergraduate degree from Fordham University. Jurich went on to earn his masters and Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University before he relocated to Manhattan and joined the K-State faculty in 1972.

"He definitely left behind a memory; no person that has been in this program will forget him," said Rebekah Adams, graduate student in marriage and family therapy. "He gave these students something unique, and in that way he won't ever be completely gone."

Jurich was in phased retirement from K-State after more than 28 years of teaching and mentoring.

"He was an amazing colleague, mentor, friend," said Sandra Stith, director of the marriage and family therapy program. "We're all about the business of people, and he's touched many lives and many hearts."

Stith said students and faculty spent time together Monday, talking about Jurich and remembering the ways he impacted their lives. Jurich was recognized as the life of the party in the marriage and family department and many students said he was a determing factor in their decision to attend K-State'

"I think he gives the program a sense of unity," said Cheryl Lugo, K-State alumna. "He knew how to bring us all together and support each other and learn how to become each other's friends and family."

Lugo said Jurich was the first person she met in the marriage and family therapy program and the person she wanted to work for during her time at K-State.

"He would always say that every year, whenever he had the first class, he would always say ‘look very closely at each other,'" Lugo said. "'You will become each other's best friends and be at each other's weddings.' He was right."

Jurich brought a sense of family to the program and offered students attention both inside and outside of class.

"He was always kind and warm," Adams said. "He would always go around and invite students to lunch and be involved with things."

Jurich was much more to K-State than a professor, students said. He was also an avid Wildcat fan. Jurich had season basketball tickets with colleague and friend, Farrell Webb, associate professor of family studies and human services. The two sat at half court directly in front of the student section.

"One of his most favorite things to talk about was how much he enjoyed game days and sitting front row," Adams said. "He was always encouraging people to come and support the games."

Jurich rarely missed a Wildcat game and could often times be seen giving the referees his opinion of their job performance.

"He would always have stories about his basketball outings," Lugo said. "I remember his phone had the K-State fight song; he was a huge fan."

Jurich's reach wasn't limited to K-State basketball and the family studies department, though. While at K-State he served a few years as president of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Stith said Jurich positively affected students, faculty and collegues all over the world.

"He's made a huge difference to families," Stith said. "He left an amazing legacy of people whose lives he's changed."

Comments

5 comments
Lynsay Shepard McElroy
Tue Nov 8 2011 11:14
Sadly, over a year after his passing, I have just discovered this heartbreaking news.
I had the ultimate pleasure of working with Tony for 2 years at K-State. Every time he stopped in my office, he put a smile on my face. Not only did he help me through my professional life, but my personal life as well...staying late to talk with me about relationships and any problem I may have had that day. I transcribed his book on adolescent suicide for him....and anyone who has seen his handwriting knows how big of a task that was for me! I use his term "pile-up effect" nearly everyday and explain to people his coping mechanisms, so maybe I could help a friend in need. He opened my eyes to a world I had never experienced. I am forever grateful to have had him in my life.
Ian Murray
Tue Oct 19 2010 18:26
Even though I only knew Tony through my parents, his joyfulness and warmth of spirit stands out in my childhood memories. He was extremely unique and caring and will continue on in all our memories.
Kelly Shea Newgaard '96, '99
Tue Oct 19 2010 17:24
I cannot even fathom the concept of Tony being gone. He was simply larger than life. I was and am completely in shock and grief. He was "father" to so many of us in the MFT program, and of the program itself. What an incredible loss for Olivia, for the students, past and current, for colleagues, friends and all who were lucky enough to know this amazing person. Godspeed, Tony. You will be missed; no way to fill those boots.
Cindy Trupka '78 '80
Tue Oct 19 2010 15:09
I have known and loved Tony since I met him in 1974 as a new student. I remained at K State 6 years completing my Master's degree and Tony was my Major Professor. Over all of these years we have stayed in contact. He was the first person I introduced my children to as I left each of them at K State. The world is a better place because Tony Jurich was in it. I KNOW I am a better person because Tony was a part of my life and a founding mentor in my career. I can barely accept that he is gone....we have lost a wonderful friend, colleague, mentor and the best of the best of human beings. Olivia your loss must be so profound, please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and all who knew and loved Tony.
Kim Garross
Tue Oct 19 2010 11:00
I was a student of Tony's and this article is close but does not do justice. Tony was a deeply caring and compassionate man who was not afraid to be outrageous in his acts of love, service, and loyalty to even complete strangers. If he had a fault, it was absolutely no boundaries when it came to loving others. He never cared what anyone thought, and he used this freedom to bring his sense of right and wrong to each and any situation he thought he could change for the better. Tony was completely selfless, fun-loving, accepting of all people, a crusader for the underdog, a father-away-from-home, and most of all, a hero to many of us, many times over.
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