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Christmas not the only holiday in December

Published: Friday, December 4, 2009

Updated: Friday, December 4, 2009 07:12

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Christmas used to be a special time of year for me, but it seems the older I get, the less I enjoy it. It's not because it's repetitive or because I'm sick of hearing the same crappy Christmas music every year, though I'll admit that is a factor. It's because I always meet a couple jerks who ruin the experience for me by being arrogant and presumptuous, shoving Christmas down my throat as if it were a weapon.

It's the same scenario every year. I hold open a door for a stranger whose arms are full or strike up a conversation with someone at random, or someone strikes one up with me. Pleasantries are exchanged, and then it's time to say goodbye.

"Nice talking to you," I say. "Happy Holidays."

Then the pleasant stranger's eyes narrow and they suddenly turn grouchy. "It's not ‘Happy Holidays,' it's ‘Merry Christmas.'"

Groan.

Sometimes I try to reason with these people. I try to explain to them, calmly and politely, that there's more than one holiday going on in December and I can't tell which one they celebrate just by looking at them. Unfortunately, these gung-ho Christmas fans are not listeners, unless you're on "their side." They either yell louder or just walk away, leaving me to talk to myself. How rude.

One year, I decided to mix it up a little by running an experiment. I waited until somebody pulled the angry ol' "Christmas-only" line on me, and I responded with "I'm sorry, I don't celebrate Christmas. I'm Jewish."

I expected the person to correct themselves, wish me a happy Hanukkah, apologize or at least express surprise at this little white lie. They didn't. Instead, they spat "Have a Merry Christmas" in a furious and — I dare say — disgusted tone of voice, then stormed away. It isn't very often that I'm left speechless, but this was one of those occasions.

People, I understand that Christmas is important to you, but you need to understand you are not all alone in this great big, wide world. There is a smorgasbord of holidays in December, celebrated by many different groups.

Just to name a few: Christmas is celebrated by various Christians, Hanukkah is celebrated by the Jewish, Kwanzaa by some African Americans, the Winter Solstice by Wiccans, Bodhi Day by Buddhists, Krampus by a few Germans, Festivus by weirdo "Seinfeld" fans, the Islamic New Year and so on. Let's not forget that some people, such as atheists and Jehovah's Witnesses, don't celebrate at all.

Are you getting the hint? So, when I say "Happy Holidays" to you, I'm not trying to deny you your chosen holiday. Instead, what I mean is "I have no idea what, if any, holiday you celebrate. But whatever your plans are for this month, I wish you well."

Whereas saying "It's not ‘Happy Holidays,' it's ‘Merry Christmas.'" is akin to saying "Screw you if you don't celebrate my holiday."

Happy Holidays, everyone.

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29 comments

Rogue
Mon Nov 28 2011 09:50
Happy Christmahanukwanzikaa!
Religion: a cult with critical mass
Fri Dec 11 2009 03:04
Lisa,

I'll see your John Adams quote with a Thomas Jefferson quote taken from a letter to none other than John Adams dated 4/11/1823: "And the day will come when the mystical generation of Jesus, by the supreme being as his father in the womb of a virgin will be classed with the fable of the generation of Minerve in the brain of Jupiter." I don't know how you could consider someone who calls the virgin birth of Christ a fable to be a Christian. Go ahead, find another quote to support your position and we can volley back and forth. I'm confident that my well of quotes will be much deeper than yours, because most of our founding fathers were not Christian.

Your name
Thu Dec 10 2009 18:03
I think Karen is just mad because people keep confusing her with Santa Clause.
Susan
Thu Dec 10 2009 01:02
The thing I keep in mind, is the United States of America was founded by people of Different religions, some of which were christian, but not all. Our founding forefathers understood this and put in the constitution of the US the right to celebrate which ever religion happens to work for that individual. To say it is a christian specific country is showing ignorance about why our country fought so hard for freedom from England, and the C of E, so many years ago. This means to me that saying Merry Christmas to all is generally acceptable, but is not for everyone living here, and everyone has the right to believe in which ever greeting they choose. Take it in stride, and try to enjoy this time of year.

Happy Holidays in what ever religion you may or may not have.

Lisa
Wed Dec 9 2009 17:49
To Read a book, idiot,

I think it is you who should be reading up a bit more on your history. Indeed, this country was founded on Christian principles - shall I illustrate my point from a quote by John Adams - "The general principles upon which the Fathers achieved independence were the general principals of Christianity… I will avow that I believed and now believe that those general principles of Christianity are as eternal and immutable as the existence and attributes of God.”

You, my friend are the ignorant one. Oh yea, Merry Christmas!

Jeff Lebowski
Wed Dec 9 2009 10:10
This aggression will not stand man!!!
Your name
Wed Dec 9 2009 02:56
"...who understands that not everyone believes the same thing, and that what's important is not what God we worship but how we treat the people we encounter in our lives. "

I really don't agree. I think it is very important how we treat people, very important indeed. But to a Christian, it should also be very important to God whom you choose to worship, if anyone at all.

Your name
Tue Dec 8 2009 12:00
Dear Open Minded Christian,

Thank you so much for saying this: "...who understands that not everyone believes the same thing, and that what's important is not what God we worship but how we treat the people we encounter in our lives. "

I am a Christian, so my default greeting is Merry Christmas - but if someone says they celebrate a differnent holiday or I know they do - I make sure to correct myself. It really is all about how we treat others in our day to day lives.

Car
Tue Dec 8 2009 10:38
I agree whole heartedly...I am from Canada and we are a multi-cultural nation. We celebrate many different holidays! I don't care if someone says Merry Christmas to me, but I usually respond to them in the same way they have addressed me. I try to use Happy Holidays more because I don't want to offend ANYONE. If I in turn offend the Christians well then so be it. What are they going to do, burn me at the stake? Ravage my village until I believe the same things they do...I could go on and on but I'm sure you get the point. you have many people criticizing you here and I think it's funny! In one ear and out the other! I think your way of thinking is beautiful!
Your name
Tue Dec 8 2009 02:48
Merry Christmas.
Read a book you idiot
Mon Dec 7 2009 23:12
Lisa,

for starters, we are not a Christian nation, in fact, many of our founding fathers were deists, not Christians. Since you obviously aren't getting a proper education at K-State, pick up a copy of "The Age of Reason" by Thomas Paine, and you'll find that it is overtly anti-Christian. Furthermore, many of the Christmas traditions that you think have their roots in Christianity pre-date the birth of Christ. Just a few examples of Pagan traditions that pre-date Christ are the lighted tree, decking the halls with garland, the gift exchange, the yule log, and mistletoe. Even the date for celebrating Christmas was taken from the celebration of the birthday of Mithras, the Persian sun god. Your ignorance may be bliss to you, but to anyone with an education you are just ignorant. Oh yea, Happy Holidays!

Frank Martin
Mon Dec 7 2009 16:05
Happy Holidays is KU's way of saying Merry Christmas.
Frank Costanza
Mon Dec 7 2009 15:58
"Welcome, newcomers. The tradition of Festivus begins with the airing of grievances. I got a lot of problems with you people! And now you're gonna hear about it!"

This quote is just as likely to come come from Karen Ingram as Frank Costanza. I'm gonna be honest Karen. This holiday might be right up your alley. Hurry down to Home Depot while aluminum poles are still half price during the Christmas, er make that Holiday sale.

And for goodness sakes, please write something remotely positive by the end of the year. Talk about how much the politically correct love celebrating the holidays with holiday trees, holiday lights, holiday wreaths, holiday parties, and holiday gifts. Anything in the vicinity of optimism would be much appreciated. ¡Feliz Navidad!

Your name
Mon Dec 7 2009 14:58
You don't like Christmastime any more because you've met a few rude people? (Hard to believe you've really met THAT many like the ones you describe.) Ask Santa for thicker skin.
Lisa
Sun Dec 6 2009 21:51
Poor misinformed Danny Haszard. Jehovah's Witnesses are different in that they are the only ones who adhere closely as possible to the example that Jesus set (1Pt. 2:21), whose disciples by the way didn't celebrate traditional holidays and this certainly does make not only them "happy" but also their God, Jehovah (Pro. 27:11). Please don't contribute to the propaganda. Educate yourself. Although they don't celebrate holidays, they do respect those who chose to do so and don't try to stop them. They however have made a personal choice not to participate and simpy say thank you to any well wishers.
Lisa
Sun Dec 6 2009 14:59
I say Merry Christmas and if it offends anyone, then that's too bad. Maybe Happy Holidays offends me. This is a Christian nation whether you like it or not. Most people with common sense are tired of the PC crap that's bombarded us these days. It's a domino effect. First you take away the "Merry Christmas" greeting and now there are schools all over this country that won't allow kids to bring in anything that has to do with Christmas, like Santa and candy canes because they have roots in Christianity. So yes, it is a battle that I share with those "crazy Christian fanatics". Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!
Your name
Sat Dec 5 2009 14:04
You don't have to be a Christian to hope someone has a good Christmas, Ingram. Nor do you have to be a Jew to hope they have a decent Hanuka. If someone wishes you a merry Christmas, simply say "why thank you, I hope you have one as well!"
Kate Moore
Sat Dec 5 2009 11:05
The head scratcher for me is that I have never, ever, been bullied by anyone into saying 'happy holidays.' I am regularly bullied by so-called Christians (I am a practicing Catholic, for what it's worth) into demanding that we all say 'Merry Christmas."

Ms. Ingram, you have a nice take on civility. If someone wishes me well, regardless of what workd s/he uses to do so, it is my job to return the good wishes, smile, and move on.

Tony
Sat Dec 5 2009 08:46
Weirdo Seinfeld fans? It's a Festivus for the rest of us -- www.festivuspoles.com
Danny Haszard
Sat Dec 5 2009 03:35
Jehovah's Witnesses reject all holidays even benign Mother's day,exception being the Lord's evening meal also called the Last Supper or Good Friday.

They believe that when the world ends they are the only one who will survive.

The Watchtower leaders want us to be 'different' for the sake of being different.Jehovah's Witnesses are not 'happier' and are just as dysfunctional as families who do holidays.
Jesus was not born on Dec 25th,but he also did not have his second coming in the month of October 1914,which is the core doctrine of the Watchtower religion.

Santa Claus is a fairy tale and so is Watchtower 1914 dogma.







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