Those three words the world hears about so frequently are said too much, and they’re not enough.
That “love” word is thrown out there millions of times a day, but what is love? Our generation seems to be morphing the definition of our purest form of humanity into something more disrespectful.
The media says love means sex. “Sex sells,” we always hear, and the media is in the business of selling.
It is hard to turn on the television and not experience some kind of sexual reference or innuendo.
Magazines, music and the Internet are no better. Ads everywhere use sex or love as a major focal point.
Isn’t it ironically unfortunate how every movie has that one scene filled with so-called passion and romance that always leads to the bedroom?
Why do we allow Hollywood to paint this ill-conceived portrait of love? It is unfortunate if this is what our society really believes it is all about.
Love is a process. It cannot be shown by one burst of emotion, like sex. People think you will see the “one” and that will be it, boom, you’ve found love.
Too many times, men and women will find “the one” who, in the end, falls short of that important title. More importantly, many times this realization comes a little too late and one is left with regrets.
Regretful behavior is as far from the definition of love as we can get. Yet, some of us cross that line hoping to find love. Perhaps this is why sex has become a dominant factor in our society — individuals hoping sex will spontaneously produce love.
Believing in sex as a love-producing tool diminishes the righteous intentions of the act and meaning of love. It shows immense insecurity in our lives to seek sex as the only remedy to love problems.
This type of disgraceful behavior is being amplified across the world. People are using Web sites, cell phones and even Facebook to broadcast themselves and their immoral behaviors.
As a society, we cannot continue down this path of corruption. This is not the appropriate expression of love and one should not be fooled into thinking it is.
Look past the media’s misconstrued meaning and into a superior reason for love. One that is respectful and meaningful. One that leaves you feeling like you have positively affected someone else’s life.
The real meaning of love is something stronger than the physical expression that exists. It is about kindness and compassion shown by knowing, protecting and trusting the individuals in our lives.
People cry out desperately for love around us and seek that relationship with others. Are you there to answer the call?
Shane Oram is a sophomore in biology and political science. Please send comments to opinion@spub.ksu.edu.
Students using sex to find love shows poor judgment
Published: Thursday, October 2, 2008
Updated: Saturday, October 4, 2008
2 comments
Sarai
It's unfortunate to see how our genaration is so hooked on sex, not in love itself... The real value of sex has been lost, today teens have sex with whomever they want.... They don't value themselves, and don't appreciate love... Sex should only be shared with one we truly love, and want to stay with, for the rest of ur lives. Or are we toys that can be played with whenever felt like? Sex is a way of expressing love for that specific person, when they truly love each other, not SEX=LOVE!
Jason
You are right. People should keep in mind that casual sex is just that: casual with no strings attached. If you want to find love, you have to work at it but don't look at a simple hook-up as the gateway to love. However, love can certainly follow from a date that ends in a fun night of passionate sex!
