We are no longer high school students, awkwardly stumbling through fleeting relationships. We are in college, grown-ups weaving in and out of what we think are more mature relationships. Whether you met in class, in Aggieville or even on Tinder (we all know one), relationships wither and die all the time.
An article by the dating website eHarmony.com titled “Nine things to never do after a breakup” makes it pretty clear what not to do post-breakup. Don’t seek revenge, don’t beg for reconciliation and don’t try to be “just friends.”
Breakups are hard. No matter how good or bad it was, going backward from being intimate with someone is not something that happens at the snap of a finger, but there are some things you can do to ease the pain.
The consensus of students questioned indicated it was important to stay busy after a breakup. Whether it’s watching “Forgetting Sarah Marshall,” running, listening to the Black Keys, hanging out with friends or just eating ice cream.
Josh Cox, senior in history, said it was important to listen to music as a source of comfort during a breakup. The moment you are getting down about a breakup, turn up the volume and shake it off with Taylor Swift.
It is important to keep your mind busy because the best healer is time. It’s a breakup, you’re going to be sad – that’s expected and okay. Cry over some Ben and Jerry’s to let it out right away, then hop back in a healthy routine.
If you have the misfortune to go through a breakup don’t do the fade away. Avoid animosity or immaturity and most of all, do not leave angry voicemails.
Since relationships fail all the time, is it still worth it to date? According to Austin Peterson, senior in history, it is.
“We go through breakups because it’s supposed to teach us a lesson in the people we want to be around or the character we have individually,” Peterson said. “It’s a learning experience and it may take a day, a month or a year before the pain goes away, but eventually, you’ll be better for it.”
Stay the course and be positive. It can be hard to remain upbeat. Morgan Moxley, senior in public relations, said it is all about your viewpoint.
“Just because you feel lonely doesn’t mean you’re alone,” she said.
The sun will come out tomorrow. Breakups happen, but there will be someone else.
Find the person that will “motivate, inspire and help you pursue any of your goals, dreams, and help you grow into whatever you want to be,” Moxley said.
You are not in high school anymore, it is time to face breakups in a mature way. So take a chance and if it does not work out, pick yourself back up and try again.