For many people, dating is something that can seem daunting if they are new or if they haven’t been on the market in a long time. If you feel like you’re in this situation, here are some good tips for you.
For newbies:
1. Play the field a bit, and don’t be afraid to go out on dates with multiple people. While some people may judge you for this, it is a great way to get back out there without feeling a lot of pressure and feeling like you have to commit to the first person you go out with.
2. If you’re uncomfortable talking to people and are afraid you will be awkward, set up a Tinder, Bumble or, heck, even a Farmers Only account. This will allow you to talk to people you’re attracted to, and it will help you feel comfortable before you meet them in person.
3. The biggest thing you need to make clear is what your intentions are so everyone is on the same page. If you want something casual, commitment or to just be friends with someone, just be honest.
4. Have the title talk. After a couple of dates or, when you feel like you’re ready to take it to the next level, talk to that person about it before assuming you’re in a relationship
5. Be honest. Starting anything with anyone can only be built on a truthful foundation if you want it to be successful. If you can’t be honest with another person, then you probably aren’t ready to be in a relationship.
For couples:
1. Communication is key to being in a successful relationship. The more you talk about what’s going on in your day-to-day life, the better your relationship will flow.
2. Don’t have expectations for you partner. The minute you set expectations for your significant other, you will more than likely be upset with the end result. Rather, set expectations for yourself and do everything you can to try to be your best self for the other person, and they will more than likely do the same.
3. Keep dating your significant other even after you’ve been with them for a while. Make that effort. Even if it is the smallest gesture, your partner will appreciate it and it will help your relationship.
4. Be yourself and don’t change that for anyone — even your significant other. They fell in love with the person they met when you first started going out and have reasons for that.
5. Have alone time and know when you need to take a step back to get your own stuff done. It’s great to spend time with the person you love, but at the same time you need to make sure that you’re taking care of yourself so you can help take care of them when they need it.
6. When it comes to taking your relationship to the next level physically, talk about it. If you aren’t ready, be honest. If you are ready, let the other person know. Setting boundaries and respecting everyone’s wishes is most important.
Last but not least, don’t be afraid to be nervous. It is normal! On my first date with my boyfriend he was so nervous that he spilled his water all over himself four times at dinner, but he made it fun and I knew that he was someone I could have fun and laugh with.
Molly Hackett is the managing editor and sports editor and a senior in mass communications. The views and opinions expressed in this column are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Collegian. Please send comments to opinion@kstatecollegian.com.
